Skydiving Or Dying Of Vertigo. Hmm...
Updated: Feb 17
We all have a friend who is s little "boring" (hint, I am that friend) and who never dares to party too hard, preferring to stay at home reading a good book with a cup of tea as a companion or playing their favorite video games (ALONE) The one friend who, whilst you discuss the idea of a sponsored skydive over the weekend, is slowly dying of vertigo just watching the videos of Youtube, wonder why they can't be half as daring as their outgoing friends.
Are those friends really boring? Could it be that this friend who plays extreme sports is braver just cooler than you? Could it be that those who spend all night in the club until dawn are living their best life and you, who stays at home, reading and getting to bed at a sensible time, are the most monotonous person in the world? Or does it run deeper than that?
They Are Boring, But Also, They're Not!
The truth is that theories about personality are very complex, but some of the traits (permanent characteristics) of the personality can explain these phenomena.
Human beings have a curious obsession with branding everything by putting labels all around us. Annoying as it may seem, it's sort of necessary, by helping us understand our world by grouping like-for-like things together.
Many of those labels or adjectives that surround introverts are seen worse than those that use to describe and label extroverts.
In this case, we are going to focus on the most common adjectives attributed to introverts:
In the eyes of extroverts, they are often seen as “boring” and “apathetic” people many times, and introverts are often seen to have high neuroticism.
So are you telling me that introverts are crazy?!
No, far from it. That you are neurotic means that you worry a lot about things, that you are much more sensitive and that therefore everything affects you more. You are more vulnerable and don't let people in easily and sometimes it is difficult for you to relate to people at all.
So you know, if one day you are in a group and you see someone who does not speak or speaks very little, do not call them stuck-up or unfriendly. Perhaps they are simply burdened by being more introverted than others. Perhaps go up to them and coax them out of their shell by taking the first step, I promise you your efforts won't go unrewarded. Introverts are a tough shell to crack, but when you do, they are fiercely loyal friends who will give you their all.
Introversion is not necessarily linked to the absence of social connections, only that, in this case, these bonds develop differently.
An introvert, for example, may be attracted to parties or conversations, but will probably interact with few people or spend less time in these types of activities, because the amount and variety of stimuli can be emotionally draining.
Types Of Introversion
Jung's (Carl Jung, psychologist guy, Freud's buddy, kinda invented analytical psychology) classification raises four types of introversion, based on the influence of any of the four main functions of consciousness (sensation, intuition, thought and feeling):
Introverted thinking: they turn to self-analysis to understand their position and worldview.
Introverted feeling: from the outside, they can be perceived as autonomous and in control of themselves, however, they can be indecipherable, since they are not usually accessible to most people.
Introverted sensation: they pay a lot of attention to what they perceive sensorily (smells, tastes, textures, sounds).
Introverted intuition: generally qualified as “dreamers”. They feed on their particular inner vision.
Do You Fit The Bill; Introvert?
A person with a greater tendency to introversion will feel identified with more than one of these characteristics:
Attachment and extreme reservation to narrate one's life, especially aspects that are considered intimate or very valuable.
Rejection of environments with multiple stimuli (excess noise, for example).
Preference for solo activities or small groups.
Preference for a quiet and reserved lifestyle.
A tendency to active listening.
Types Of Extroversion
As we have said, extroverts are usually described by adjectives that tend to attract more 'coolness':
Yes, at first glance, looking at all these adjectives, we find a nice and funny person, right? Nothing to do with the case of introverts. But beware extroverts, sometimes because you want to feel too much, things get out of hand!
You are a polar opposite of introverts, so they see you as a reactive subject who has been given nuclear-powered batteries, capable of creating epileptic effects. Able to transmit happiness and optimism, weaving a brushstroke of color into life while introverts 'complement' you with that touch of cold indifference.
An example of an extroverted person is one who is usually the center of attention, or the charismatic leader of a group. Due to their ability to communicate with others, create networks and connect with the outside world, extroverts tend to be more predisposed to occupy leadership positions in the social and professional fields.
Do You Fit The Bill; Extrovert?
For Jung, the extroverts were divided into four groups:
Extroverted thinking: they have their own rules, usually set in stone, and use them to understand the world around them.
Extroverted feeling: they are very adaptable to circumstances and are focused on gaining recognition in the personal, professional and social spheres.
Extroverted sensation: they are characterized by seeing the world from a practical point of view, so they tend to easily assume the circumstances in which they live.
Intuitive Extrovert: They are charismatic, group leaders, and are often one step ahead of situations due to their ability to foresee what may happen.
Characteristics of Extroversion
Generally speaking, extroverts have a great facility to connect with the world around them, but they also have other characteristic traits:
They are more willing to narrate their lives and share thoughts and feelings with others.
They are very communicative. They have the ability to speak in public or to lead a conversation or debate.
Outdoor activities nurture and inspire them, as does sharing with others.
They can have a certain tendency to recklessness since they are so focused on communicating their ideas that they often do not think if what they are going to say is appropriate or acceptable.
They do not find individual activities pleasant, or loneliness for that matter.
They are comfortable leading groups or solving problems.
Their circles of friends and social contacts are very wide.
We Are Biologically Different
Although it seems somewhat contradictory. Extroverts have lower basal arousal levels than introverts, so WTH is that!?
Sometimes this term can also be called “Arousal” and it is the amount of input from our senses; both psychological and physiological that the body experiences. Extroverts have a lower level of arousal. Would this explain why they have these characteristics? The truth is yes.
That extroverts have a lower basal level of activation means that they need more stimulation to feel active, alert. Hence, they tend to be very social people, who seek to party all day, many of them practice extreme sports to feel adrenaline or are those who when they go to an amusement park drool from getting on the highest roller coasters on the planet.
And what about introverts?
They have the highest basal activation levels and are always alert. As soon as they are given more stimulation, they go into a state of overwhelm and stress. Introverts live in a world of constant vigilance, for this reason, what they most want is to live in calm and peace so as not to exceed the limits of said basal activation towards negative feelings.
So, which do you most align with?
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