• Bola Kwame

I Wish Someone Had Told Me This When I Was Young

When we are young, we feel like we have to make the decisions that will lead us to who we should be. However, we don't even know who we are yet.

Would you let an 18-year old make vital decisions for your life? Neither do I!

Not even if that 18-year-old is me. So why does the world expect you to know what to do at that moment?

I dropped out of college, started working, went back to college, started entrepreneurship, and I'm not even 30 years old.

And no, I'm still not 100% sure who I am. But I am getting there.

Of course, the process is full of uncertainty, doubt, and fresh starts. But you must trust the process. All the failures you had, no matter how painful, led you to where you are today.

What advice do you wish you had received when you were young?

Although I think you should accept that the best thing is what happened, I can't help but wonder what if...?

Like the Marvel animated series. I would pay to see a simulation created by an AI where I can see different versions of my life. What if I had known this before? What if I had made another decision? What if I had the courage to do this sooner?

Would I be about ten steps ahead today? Would everything be exactly the same? Would fame have corrupted my personality and would I end up like Robert Downey Jr. in the 90s?

Hopefully Medium doesn't start charging for using question marks.

The more I think about it, the more I get lost in the idea. Then I wonder, what piece of information would have helped when I was younger?

There were too many things that I had to discover for myself, and that are part of the process. But sometimes, you don't need data or a secret formula, we just need them to believe in us. When I was young, I did not believe in myself, I did not believe that I would get to where I am. And I'm not even somewhere yet.

I think what I would say to my younger self would be 4 words: "I believe in you." Which translates to "You believe in yourself" because, you know, I am myself.

Does that last paragraph even make a bit of sense?

I hope so. I am a "writer" after all.

I think what I want to get to is, sometimes you just need to believe in the process and surround yourself with people who believe in you. Allow yourself to stumble and get up again, but never allow yourself to stop believing.

Sorry if I sound too cheesy, I just finished the Ted Lasso season finale.

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