5 "Healthy" Habits That Are Actually Hurting You
I have nothing against self-improvement stories. In fact, I think some of them are quite helpful and motivating.
I do have a problem with self-help articles that don't add anything positive or practical to your life. Rather, they promote harmful thoughts and ideas that make us feel worse.
Selling the idea of self-help is very easy, so much so that many end up spreading misinformation about it. Many so-called self-help habits are harmful.
These are 5 "healthy" habits that are hurting you.
1. Dream big
When someone seeks to motivate you with the story of a great entrepreneur, they always focus on how these successful people had big goals from the start.
Jobs and Zuckerberg had visionary ideas from the start and without them, they would not have created Apple and Facebook.
This only makes people feel pressured by very high expectations that are not really theirs. To self-improve, we don't need to have goals such as founding an empire from scratch. A great goal can be something very simple like having peace of mind.
Don't let them make you believe that to be successful you have to want to be a billionaire CEO.
2. Work hard
The hustling culture is really worrying. We have been led to believe that to be truly productive we have to be non-stop working machines.
Be the first to arrive, the last to leave, and be willing to do tons of extra work without pay just for recognition.
You shouldn't push yourself to the limit in everything you do to be productive, you will only end up with a great burnout syndrome.
It's not about working nonstop day and night, it's about knowing your limits and being productive in a healthy amount of time each day.
3. Appearances over health
"Dress for the job you want, not the one you have."
Social media has proven to be a risk to mental health and productivity. They rarely bring us useful and valuable things and almost all the time they make us believe that appearance is what matters.
Many people worry too much about looking good on top of actually looking good.
4. Acquire information without actually learning
Did you know that Bill Gates reads 50 books a month?
Did you know that this data does not really matter and you should not buy with it?
To think that we must be reading mountains of books all the time and absorbing new information is a mistake. It doesn't matter if you memorize a whole book if you don't know how to apply the information.
Focus on learning new things that help you in aspects of your life, but don't feel like you have to do it every day.
5. Set goals without a plan
As with dreams, all these self-help articles tell us that without big goals you won't get far.
But how to achieve the goals?
It does not matter that you dedicate yourself to curing a disease or washing your bathroom. No goal is good without a plan.
Settle yourself with realistic short and medium-term goals that you know how to carry out. Don't worry about having ambitious and delusional goals that don't really mean anything.
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